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What’s in My Toolbox?

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Ten Specific Tools to assist in positive mood, motivational and connection changes. Measuring Tape:   a Your ABC’s.   Each of us have things that go wrong in life.   We are affected by Adversary.   What we Believe about the cause, will form our Consequences.   For three days (or until you have five examples) write down A- Your adversarial event.   B – Your belief about why the event occurred and C – The Consequence for you because of the event.   For example:    A – You called your friend, and left a message, but they didn’t return your call.   B – “They didn’t call me back because. . .   (They don’t really care about me, they were out of town, I’m not a very good friend, so of course they don’t want to talk to me. . . whatever) C – I felt ______ ( They didn’t call because I’m not a good friend, so I felt depressed and didn’t bother calling anyone else) and so I ____________.               Notice how your belief is directly in correlation to how you respond, positively or negative

A Reason Isn’t Evil, It Is Just A Reason. – NLP

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A Reason Isn’t Evil, It Is Just A Reason.   – NLP I think, and isn’t that why you are reading this, to see what I think?   Anyway, I think. . . that too often we demonize so many of our little imperfections that we forget that every one of them is there because it gives us something.   While it may and probably is better that we rid ourselves of poor habits, annoying tendencies and unbecoming personality traits, I think we forget that we have to honor those choices before we can send them to their ‘thank you for your service’ retirement.    I know that I used to really hate to get up early.   Hated it.   Loved luxuriously sleeping in and staying up until the wee hours of the morning, sometimes not even going to bed at all.   While I wanted to ‘change’ it, because ‘people’ said it was better for me, I didn’t feel I had the capacity or the motivation.   I wanted to my freedom and I gave every ‘reason’ I could come up with to show both how I ‘couldn’t’ and why I ‘shouldn’t’.    A