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Deciding for others - what they intend

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      We’ll call our example Suzie.   Suzie wasn’t usually the one who texted first.   She wasn’t the one to made lunch dates either. She certainly wasn’t the one who asked if ‘this seat is taken’, she’d rather not be vulnerable to a ‘Yes” answer. Suzie was also lonely. She knew that (we’ll call the subject of her ire Robin) that Robin didn’t like her.   Robin never called her just to chat.   She SAID she was a friend, she even said things like, “Well my friend. . .” and “How was your trip?”   But Suzie knew she really didn’t care, or want to know.   Meanwhile . . . Robin wondered what she had done to make Suzie dislike her.   Robin tried to sit next to her at the party, but Suzie looked the other way when she asked if the seat was open.   Robin liked Suzie, but she didn’t have a clue why she was so discounted in her attempts to be friendly.   Are you Suzie, or Robin, or perhaps just . . . you.   Try it. ...
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People talk about things until they don't need to talk about them anymore.

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  100 Personal Quotes -  #4   " "People talk about things until they don't need to talk about them anymore."  Confession, this used to be about ME being patient with others.   Waiting to watch their expressions and need to talk about something that perhaps they’ve forgotten that they have already told me.   HOWEVER, I’m finding that now, it applies to myself equally if not more-so.   I hear myself telling a story that I know, as the words are even coming out of my mouth, I’ve told before.   I’ve told THIS person before.   I even apologize with, “I know I’ve told you this before. . . “ and continue on!   At the same time, I’m mentally -I’d hopefully never embarrass someone out-loud- saying, “Here we go again, s/he’s told me this multiple times now!”   I think, (enter thoughtful pause here) that ofttimes, the need is still there to share for several reasons.   One, they might not have felt you understood what they were reall...
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Beware of burying yourself in 'busy' .

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100 Personal Quotes September 7, 2026   #3   Beware of burying yourself in 'busy' You run into an old friend at the grocery store, you know the drill, “Oh!   How ARE you?” – You – “Oh dear, busy, really busy.”   - Them, “I know what you mean!    Me too.   Sorry I haven’t called. . . but . . . .” then, the grocery list of all they are currently involved with, as your brain is on hyper drive making your own list of how busy you are, and what has kept you from texting or making a lunch date.   We are all ‘busy’, we claim it almost as a badge of honor.   There are even books written about being in the FLOW – thanks Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi –.   But is it really where we want to be?   Do the endless entries on our calendar define us as successful?   Does a calendar without a day un-allocated make us feel like we are slackers?   Think about it.   When was the last time you had a day with absolutely nothing sched...
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