Th'Muse

It Is What It Is Or is it? Life is hard. Making money is hard. Relationships don’t work. It is too easy to quit. It is what it is. I don’t live in a mansion, but I love my home. I’m   not a dance teacher with my own studio, but I love my voice students.  I’m not a size four, but I’m enjoying being a six. It is what it is.  Anything can be made to be worse than it is, or better than it is, just by where you choose to focus. Yes, something may be a certain way, but are there no other choices, Really?   Can one thing be shifted, even a little?   For me, sometimes the phrase is a sigh.   It is my crutch, something I lean on so that I don’t have to look deeper and fix what is broken. Then other times it is a support, a soft place to land when I consider what my choices are, and what they are NOT.   Sometimes just the ‘knowing what you can change, and what you can not’ is a warm blanket allowing me to relea...

Ten Specific Tools to assist in positive mood, motivational and connection changes. Measuring Tape:   a Your ABC’s.   Each of us have things that go wrong in life.   We are affected by Adversary.   What we Believe about the cause, will form our Consequences.   For three days (or until you have five examples) write down A- Your adversarial event.   B – Your belief about why the event occurred and C – The Consequence for you because of the event.   For example:    A – You called your friend, and left a message, but they didn’t return your call.   B – “They didn’t call me back because. . .   (They don’t really care about me, they were out of town, I’m not a very good friend, so of course they don’t want to talk to me. . . whatever) C – I felt ______ ( They didn’t call because I’m not a good friend, so I felt depressed and didn’t bother calling anyone else) and so I ____________.          ...

A Reason Isn’t Evil, It Is Just A Reason.   – NLP I think, and isn’t that why you are reading this, to see what I think?   Anyway, I think. . . that too often we demonize so many of our little imperfections that we forget that every one of them is there because it gives us something.   While it may and probably is better that we rid ourselves of poor habits, annoying tendencies and unbecoming personality traits, I think we forget that we have to honor those choices before we can send them to their ‘thank you for your service’ retirement.    I know that I used to really hate to get up early.   Hated it.   Loved luxuriously sleeping in and staying up until the wee hours of the morning, sometimes not even going to bed at all.   While I wanted to ‘change’ it, because ‘people’ said it was better for me, I didn’t feel I had the capacity or the motivation.   I wanted to my freedom and I gave every ‘reason’ I could come up with to show both h...