Deciding for others - what they intend

  

 

We’ll call our example Suzie. 

Suzie wasn’t usually the one who texted first. 

She wasn’t the one to made lunch dates either.

She certainly wasn’t the one who asked if ‘this seat is taken’, she’d rather not be vulnerable to a ‘Yes” answer.

Suzie was also lonely.

She knew that (we’ll call the subject of her ire Robin) that Robin didn’t like her.  Robin never called her just to chat.  She SAID she was a friend, she even said things like, “Well my friend. . .” and “How was your trip?”  But Suzie knew she really didn’t care, or want to know.  Meanwhile . . .

Robin wondered what she had done to make Suzie dislike her.  Robin tried to sit next to her at the party, but Suzie looked the other way when she asked if the seat was open.  Robin liked Suzie, but she didn’t have a clue why she was so discounted in her attempts to be friendly. 

Are you Suzie, or Robin, or perhaps just . . . you. 

Try it.  Let others speak for themselves.  Let their actions be honored, not dissected and negated.  Many people are simply trying to make connections, just like you.  Decide for you, let Suzie, and Robin, and Joe and Harold . . . decide for themselves.  Deal?         

 

~ MGSK