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Monday, July 26, 2010

Spun into Gold


There is a fable of the miller's daughter.

Sarah  Van Breathnach tells us to consider that we are not only the girl. . . but we are all things.  In a fable, the characters represent our inner motivations and our weaknesses. 

We are also the Miller.  Do we have those which we demand the impossible?  Do we think so much of our children that we leave them no logical way to complete our expectations? 

Are we Rumpelstiltskin, in that we have a secret. . . that we are not always willing for others to share, without a price.  Our service comes with a price tag, sometimes far more than the service is worth. 

Perhaps at times, we are the gold.  The magical wonder that is spun from our ordinaryness. 
Or, are we straw?  Willing possibilities that with the right touch, the right help, can be gold? 

Are we the king, who wants what is impossible.  Who reaps without sowing, who gathers without spinning.  Are we greedy and anxious for more.  Always more? 

Perhaps we are the daughter, or even the child.  Promised to something we have no control over. 

Look into your favorite fairy tale, and see if perhaps you don't relate to a different character than you usually do.  

Artwork by Anne Anderson

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Connections...a Soft Place to Land

Connections...a Soft Place to Land
E.F.T

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy developed by Dr. Sue Johnson

Have you ever felt angry, but nothing was ‘really’ wrong?  Do you feel alone in a crowd, or in a relationship?  Do you remember feeling like you have no one you can call when you are feeling blue?  You may be missing a deep and meaningful attachment.
 
From Meet Joe Black:
How do you know? (Your wife loves you)
Quince: Because she knows the worst thing about me and it's okay.

Babies, when they are first-born, need to be with their mother’s within the first 45 minutes of birth, to be comforted and held and nursed.  If they do not have this, studies show that they can have attachment issues that continue throughout their lives.  We are no different.  If we do not have a soft place to land, someone who we KNOW is there for us no matter what, we are like a rudder-less ship, floating through experiences without an anchor. 

There is help.  

75%-80% of all couples who undergo EFT come out with stronger and better relationships.  It is phenomenal.  Now there are ways that you can ask yourself the seven questions, look out for the three demon dialogues and reconnect with your partner in strong bonds that are healing and supportive for both. 

Learn how to dance through the Protest Polka; Side-step the Blame Game and refuse to Freeze or Flee.  Stopping these enemies of communication can bring you to a place where you can look into loving eyes and know that NO MATTER WHAT. . . you are someone, and you have someone who will be there. 

You can feel like this too.  You deserve it.

Mail me for more information.