Th'Muse

Grief is a difficult emotion.  It is hard to even think about.  Our heart constricts; our palms sweat; our mouth gets dry; sometimes even when nothing has actually happened.  Yet, it is as much a part of our lives as joy, fun, success and contentment.  It is a rare human who slides through without at least a degree of it tagging along, yet we do not know how to embrace it.  I’ve learned two things.  One, as mentioned, it will come. Two, I can choose to acknowledge it, respect it, or give in to it.  A.D. Wolfet said, “Feel it, to Heal it.”  I think what he meant was that in order to actually get through something difficult, you have to actually allow it to be felt.  If we push away difficult feelings, burry them deeply in our heart, they will remain right there, a bump in the carpet always tripping us up at the most inopportune times. Often, we think of grief as something we feel when someone passes on.  Elizabeth Küblar-Ross gave us ...

Are there times when you WISH you could just say those words?  Are there times you do, but wish you didn't have to?  How about those times when you OUGHT to, but don't?  I heard something yesterday by a woman named Byron Katie.  She said basically that when she got her life in balance, smoking 'quit' her.  That guilt and rage 'quit' her. I loved that perspective.  Wouldn't it be wonderful if our little annoying habits would just 'quit'?  No more temptation, no more grinding against will, no more 'trying' or struggle, just a simple 'No Thank You', and away they would wander to pest someone else. Is it wholly possible that this can happen?  What if, when one of those little pesky temptations comes knocking, we can simply and confidently say, "No Thank You", and replace it with something we DO want in our lives.  No more trying to justify, no more 'just this one last time', not even a fleeting, 'I really don...

tonynich "Getting Back" seems to be going hand in hand with "Exploring More". Some things I am now, I never was before. Some things I'd forgotten I was. It is nice to simply remember that life is right now. Being in the moment, being present, enjoying even things like dishes and paperwork, the things that you choose to do. Putting worth on everything, for everything is done for a greater reason than just 'paying the bills'. If I concentrate on what each bill grants me, even that is exciting. I'm not talking about rose coloured glasses, but certainly ones with a little bling on the sides doesn't (dont?) hurt m'vision any. I've learned that being a sensual being, re-learning how to be playful and fun and continuing to respect and cherish my caring side is a good mix for me. Balance I guess is what I've slipped into. I've also learned that what every juggler knows. Anyone can learn to juggle three things. It is when we add in too...