Life - Relationship - Intimacy - Career Coaching

Search This Blog

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

The Other Side of the Mirror


Life Is An Echo
What you send out - comes back.
What you sow - you reap.
What you give - you get.
What you see in others - exists in you.
Pravs J

We went to see Alice in Wonderland the other day, in 3D, dorky glasses and all.  I was thinking (surprise) during the whole down-side-up-side-down eye-feast, about what we really see in our world.  For instance, the next day we went to San Francisco.  There are people of every persuasion, financial, political, gender, race and intelligence there. There are beggars, street performers, tourists, locals and a whole lot of just regular folk.  

A woman asked me for my 'spare change'.  I don't have a lot, but I wondered. . . what if the world turned around, and I was the beggar, and she was the one all dressed in sequins on her way to see WICKED?  

Do we ever really know the stories of the people we come across?  Could it be, that the woman on the street corner had actually decided, even before she arrived in this place, at this time, in that skin, that she would be the one to teach me to look at the world from another angle?  What if she knew that I would go on my merry way, never really considering the point of views of those who differed from me, unless she volunteered to be my nudge?  Perhaps a silly example, but what about the father who is basically a louse?  Alcoholic, poor provider, with a temper. . . but when the whole story is known, it turns out he was told that the only way his child would ever learn compassion and be able to fulfill their greatest potential, is if they had a difficult childhood.  So he bowed in great agony, and said, "I'll do it so that my son will succeed".  

Then in WICKED. . . "Are people born evil, or do they have evil thrust upon them?"  Something to consider.  We never really get the whole story.  I know for myself, judgement is going to be even less common in my world.  I just never know. . .  

Friday, March 19, 2010

Follow Your Bliss




Have you heard that before?  Follow your bliss, and it will all be wonderful?  I am the sort of person who reads.  A lot.  I love hearing what others think, how they describe and relate to the world, be it through fiction, science, history, esoterics or whatever.  I enjoy the tidbits of wisdom that comes from all sources.  I hear over and over again, in one form or another, to 'follow your bliss'.  

It sounds wonderful doesn't it?  Yet I get this sort of airy arms outspread-sort of feeling.  Something that happens in movies, not in so-called 'real-life'.  Then I discovered that perhaps I wasn't connecting with that statement because I wasn't sure what my bliss was. I know things I enjoy.  I know some things I'm good at, but I'm not really sure what that ONE thing is, that I want to just drop everything else for and follow.  

I realized, finally, that the path to finding it wasn't through a sit-down session with myself to struggle out and define and hone and scuplt a 'bliss'.  I realized that it had to be something that whispered to me through all the other bits of noise, hidden values and good that surrounded my world.  I found that the only way for it to be heard, was for me to be willing to really consider what price I was willing to pay for 'it'.  Whatever it was.  So I made a list.  

Mine went something like this:  

I have time.  I am willing to give up a full two hour block daily to discovery and enrichment.
I have experience.  I am willing to respect my past experiences for the lessons they have taught me.
I have some financial resources.  I am willing to give up a few things I like and enjoy, to free-up more resources for growth.
I have emotional health.  I am willing to let go and be vulnerable, where it is outside of my comfort-zone.
I have a healthy body.  I am willing to fore-go treats, snacks (But not chocolate) and add the gym.


It went on, but you get the idea.  As I wrote, one idea kept nudging me and I realized just what my personal bliss truly is.  Perhaps this will help you.  Try it, it takes about ten minutes.

 
*#*#*#*#*#
What Will I Give. . . to Have________________ ?

Define what you WANT-

be it a fabulous relationship; a successful career; a certain possession; or a physical change. . . then list what you have to give.

What can you do, be, see, share, acquire, that will move you closer towards deserving that desire?

I Want : __________________________________________________________

I Have: ____________________________________________________
_________________________________________________to give.



 Click for a downloadable pdf  - Of the above tool.

Sunday, March 14, 2010

NO Thank you.

Are there times when you WISH you could just say those words?  Are there times you do, but wish you didn't have to?  How about those times when you OUGHT to, but don't?  I heard something yesterday by a woman named Byron Katie.  She said basically that when she got her life in balance, smoking 'quit' her.  That guilt and rage 'quit' her.

I loved that perspective.  Wouldn't it be wonderful if our little annoying habits would just 'quit'?  No more temptation, no more grinding against will, no more 'trying' or struggle, just a simple 'No Thank You', and away they would wander to pest someone else.

Is it wholly possible that this can happen? 

What if, when one of those little pesky temptations comes knocking, we can simply and confidently say, "No Thank You", and replace it with something we DO want in our lives.  No more trying to justify, no more 'just this one last time', not even a fleeting, 'I really don't want it to go away, really. . . ' but a firm, honest and clear, "No thank you. . . I'm moving on."

Just try it.  I'm going to.  Maybe you can come back and share your experiences.

Friday, March 5, 2010

This attraction thing.

Ok, I've been following with interest, a good share of skepticism, and some real curious occurences; the hype about the law of attraction.  This doesn't mean (for those still untouched by the 'Secret' and other self-help gurus) the cute woman walking by, or the good-looking guy who just smiled at you.  It basically is explained as karma, what you give out you get back, or universal magnetism. (More or less). 

Let me give you a few examples.  I always get a great parking spot.  Always.  I drive into a 'full' parking lot yesterday, just across the street from where I want to go, and there isn't one single spot!  I couldn't believe it.  Then I thought, "Well, where is the guy who was pulling out for me?"  Sort of tongue-in-cheek and all (Wait, can you have your tongue in your cheek if you are just thinking something?  Ugh, nevermind).  So I shrug and start to pull out.  Just at the driveway, a car pulls up next to me and honks.  I look over and he is motioning to the spot he just left.  My parking place!  Weird huh?  Then my daughter said, "I was JUST thinking, 'Mom always gets a spot. . . "

Then there is the uncanny truth, that no matter what time of day, no matter how tired I am, no matter anything, if I take a nap, the phone WILL ring.  Curious thing ever.  It has never failed.  Not once. 

I don't believe in accidents, so this just might be the thing that explains a lot of odd things in my life.  Today I called a friend I haven't spoken to in a year, to ask a favor.  Just after 'hello' I hear, "Oh my Gosh (Ok, that wasn't the word, but I don't take the Lord's name in vain, anywhere, for any reason. . . ) I was JUST thinking about you and wishing I could call you.

You aren't convinced yet?  Well how about the science of it? The fact that everything is vibration.  That a human cell 700 miles away from its human origin will become disturbed if the human is disturbed, instantaneously. That the body is affected by thought, which is vibration, which then affects the world around the thought as those vibrations shift.  Simple stuff to prove with biochemistry, just ask Candace Pert.

Image from www.hohohochristmas.com  don't you just love it?  


All of this has me thinking. 
I know that some things just aren't ready to be done.
I know that nothing is an accident. 
I know that something can be gained from every experience. 

What I am not sure of, is how to actually mold, remain on the highest vibration and banish pessimism and negativity from my sphere.  Can I attract that knowledge please?  I'll even throw in a great massage. . .